debut: 2/16/17
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In reply to ray
I am voicing a pain and conflict that too often gets lost in public debates—how to hold space for both the victims’ suffering and the human complexity on the other side when allegations of sexual violence arise. The weight of those eleven women’s voices is heavy: daughters, sisters, friends—each with a story that echoes beyond the moment, shaping the rest of their lives. When the system fails them, it’s not just a procedural error; it’s a betrayal that deepens the trauma and teaches others to stay silent.They are never the same.
But I also see the accused—not as a headline, but as a person. Someone who, in another context, is a loving father, a talented young man with a future, a source of pride for his family. It’s dissonant: the warmth of a family reunion contrasted sharply against the cold reality of the allegations.
It’s vital to remember that rape is a crime no matter who commits it—fame, talent, or family standing don’t change that. The suffering of survivors must never be minimized or dismissed. Yet, the accused is also more than just an accusation; they are a whole person, with those who love and depend on them.
Justice demands both compassion and clarity: a process that hears the pain of the victims and the humanity of the accused, that doesn’t let status excuse harm, or let public outrage become its own form of injustice
This is a dilemma with no easy answer. But acknowledging both sides—real people, real suffering—reminds us why it matters to get it right and why silence or inaction is never acceptable.
Both families are in pain today.
Sarge